For many couples, intimacy is synonymous with what goes on inside the bedroom, and that’s hardly what intimacy is about. True intimacy is being so at home with each other that you share your inner thoughts without a moment’s fear of judgment; it is about feeling that somebody really gets you. The stillness, when you are both engrossed in your phones yet connected, or the one that takes place in a crowded area where you can communicate with one mere glance, are those.
Starting Small Makes the Biggest Difference
Send a meme that made you laugh and thought of him. Put your phone down when your partner is talking to you. These assumptions, even if small, will be the foundation of respect that will keep blossoming until it becomes a big, blooming flower noted by your partner.
Creating a Sanctum Only for the Two of You
Life becomes a scramble, and it’s easy to become roommates instead of romantic partners. Sure, schedules may get packed, but carving out” time” for you two should not feel like another item she’s checking off with a heavy heart on her endless list. Agree to remove one evening a week from work calls, texting, or anything money-related to free the mind and spirit for one precious evening, perhaps sipping coffee or taking a stroll in the neighborhood.
Simple Ways to Show Daily Appreciation
Thanking a partner shouldn’t feel like an empty kind of gratitude. Be on the lookout for that rare instance when you are thankful for something your partner did during your busy day, however trivial it may seem:
- Thanks for making your morning coffee.
- Thanks for convincing that annoying person to hang up on their call.
- Acknowledge when they listen patiently to you vent about work drama
- Notice when they go out of their way to do something thoughtful
- Appreciate their efforts around the house
Touch Beyond the Obvious
Connection-building power lies in non-sexual touch. A quick rub of the shoulders while they are working on their computer, holding hands during a film, or giving each other a proper hug for more than three seconds, would be magical. These brief touches deliver both of you a rush of feel-good chemicals and, more importantly, tell each other, “We are on the same team.”
Rekindling Shared Interests
Remember the thrill of those early dating days? Some of that magic can return with the introduction of new adventures together. It need not be costly or demanding in preparation.
- Cook a recipe from a culture you’re totally ignorant of.
- Take a different route on your evening stroll, which by now should have become routine.
- Watch a documentary about something totally random.
- Play card games or puzzles.
- Visiting an art fair.
Conclusion
Consistency, not perfection, is your answer to keeping that intimacy improvement tension-free. Some days, you will do well, while on others, you will hardly remember to say “good morning” to one another. That is perfectly acceptable and guilt-free. Progress is what needs celebrating, perfection forgotten.
